Q's on Okonkwo not understanding female virtues vs. male virtues

Okonkwo refuses to acknowledge when he regretted beating one of the wives, because if he had to ackowledge he didi wrong, he would have to apologize, which he views weak. Also when he comments that Ezinma should have been a man, he is oblivious and/or refuses to ackwoledge the Female virtues of Ezinma and only acknowledges the Manly virtues in her. One time when he did show a woman virtue by his standards was when he worried about Ezinma being taken by Chielo. After this he repeatedly came to the cave entrance, waiting nervousloy for his wife that chased after the priestess and Ezinma. This can create problems for many reasons. For example towards his family, espiacially Nwoye, which is beaten and punished regualary. This conflict in my opinion was what made up Nwoye’s decision to convert and leave his family. With the Christians, even though he origanly didn’t like them, made him despise them because: A, that they are all about peace and kindness, which he doesn’t like and will accept about any one, including the Osu. And : B, Nwoye left him and Okonkwo refused to acknowledge that it was his ignorance of his female virtues that made him leave. Also on any regular occasion he will take the more violent route to appear more manly.